Generations we've been used to tell our kids to hide their emotions. However, hiding emotions is an unhealthy practice. Here are five phrases you can practice talking to your kids.
You should remember that you are not too late to start it all over again teaching your kids emotional skills. EQ is an essential ingredient for future success. Importantly few simple shifts in your words selection can I actually kids emotional intelligence allows them to develop the skill set to be more mindful emotionally strong.
"It's no big deal"
Your child may be anxious to go to the swimming classes or perhaps worried about his new friend. It's very important that you show your attention when your kid complaining about something. make sure you do not minimize it saving " it's no big deal". For the time these little things very big deal. As an adult, you should try to give them the skills needed to deal with the situation by taking serious note of concern made by your kid.
"Men do not cry"
"stop crying " is the most commonly misinterpreted phrase by adults. From very early childhood adults implant the idea that crying is bad and men never cry. If your child keeps crying and yelling at you. You should address the actual cause of the issue
"I'm so proud of him for not crying "
"I'm so proud of him for being so strong. He hasn't cried once since his grandmother died." One father commented on the class teacher complimenting his son. This is a classic example of misinterpretation of strength which eventually turns into to toxic message for the kids. "No crying" sends the symbol of mental strength. Mental strength all about acutely aware of your emotions. You know how to express your emotions when needed. Here are the five Graces you can tell to your kids.
"You are very smarter than everyone in the school"
You should never tell your kid that "He or She is smart smarter than everyone else" even if it is true. Make sure you praise your kid based on the skill rather than making a comparison with the others. Emphasize the fact that they studied for a long time or that they hustled hard they know you value their effort. "Calm Down" As an adult, I have seen some people repeatedly saying to calm down to kids. How can the kid calm down if an adult is not having peace in mind? You need to reassess and understand the real reason behind the concern. Again you all need to re-assess the confusion of your kid and address the authentic reasons to content. In most cases, parents use the word calm down Wipe Out the frustration of the parent.